Was spoken to be her teacher after school today (in front of other parents) saying that she'd not had a good day, she refused to do the work, scribbled on the table and then CUT SOME ONE'S HAIR! Seems that she had been a pain all day. I am livid, angrier than I have ever been.
She was sent to her bedroom when we got in, she ate her dinner there and is now in bed, she has cried for 2 hours, she's cried for herself though, not for what she's done.
I am not blaming the school at all, Isobel is responsible for her own actions but the way that the teacher spoke it was no big deal, It's an enormous deal for me, I spoke to the parent of the girl and apologised, she was really nice about it but told me that Isobel has been pushing and spiting at the girl, SPITING!
I've told Isobel that she is doing nothing in future, no karate, no beavers, no school trips, no parties, no treats after school. Nothing at all. I've also told her that she is leaving that school, this is why she is most upset, I feel that now we have no choice, its been going on for far too long, from the minute she started in fact, I think that she's been allowed to get away with too much, she seems to think that she is in charge, I don't blame the school as such, its nice that they're kind and sweet with them but she needs more, she is a very challenging child, I just don't know what to do.
I'm also cancelling the bloody educational psychologist, Izzy would love 3 hours of one to one attention and I really don't think it would get us very far.
My plan is that I'm seeing the headteacher in the morning and telling her that enough is enough and she's leaving. The school where George will go has a place for her (at least the did a few months ago, I'm sure that they still do) so that is a possibility. I wouldn't mind trying a state school for a while (her current school is private and expensive) maybe just to give her a shock, I just don't know. Although, getting a state school place seems to be really complicated.
I feel so ashamed of her, I just can't believe the behavior I'm hearing about. I feel embarrassed, I would imagine that if she behaves like this a lot all the mothers are gossiping about us. Isobel has a behaviour book which more often than not has smiley face stickers in it meaning that she's had a good day, I don't think that I believe this anymore.
I really feel like this is my fault, we give her everything we can in terms of a good school, nice clothes, trips out and she deserves none of it.
No need to reply, I just don't know what to do. I'm so stressed that I had feel my band, feels like its clamped shut!