Sunday, 5 September 2010

Not really band related, school woe's.

My weight loss appears to be moving again, well, actually I had a bad Friday and Saturday and yet was 16st (224 pounds) on Saturday and Sunday morning so tend to think that if I hadn't eaten crap I would have maybe lost weight! So that all looks good.

I had one of Isobel's school friends and her Mum over today, I like the Mum and Isobel and her friend get on well although Izzy tends to be a bit crazy when she's with her.

Briefly, Isobel goes to a private girls school, she is about to start her second year and will be a year 1, she is 5. There are 18 girls in her class. Her first year was hard, I have mentioned it in my blog before but she really played up at school and I had many meetings and almost daily feedback about how bad her behaviour was. She is a challenging child to be fair but we've never had these kind of issues at home or at her pre-school. She is very bright, I think that the school give lots of mixed messages and Isobel was basically trying to on. Her last term was better, her behaviour seemed much better. Isobel won her form award for attainment, there are 18 in the class and 2 others won awards too.

So the mother, Claire came today. She has met with a few of the mothers over the holidays. I have to say that I like this mother, she is much more realistic than many of the mothers at the school.
She told me today that the mothers weren't happy about Isobel winning the award, they felt that her behaviour wasn't good enough and what kind of message did this send to their girls.
She then went on to tell me that another mother had asked her if Isobel was having extra reading lessons (apparently rumour has it that she does) Claire replied that as far as she knew she wasn't and finds it hard to believe that she would need them as Isobel's reading is a year ahead of her class (not quite sure how she knows this but it is correct)
A few other things were said about what some of the mothers said about other mothers/pupils and I'm really really really annoyed. So annoyed that I don't even want to eat which is unheard of for me!
I wouldn't mind if they were being bitchy about me but they're saying stuff about a 5 year old girl, my 5 year old girl and I want to punch all of them!

Izzy goes back to school on Thursday, I am dreading it, I don't want to see any of these woman, obviously I know that I need to be civil to them and attend their daughters parties but I really really don't want to.

I don't need any advice, I am just astounded about how nasty and jealous these grown woman are being. I needed to write it all down before I explode or cry.

13 comments:

  1. do these women have nothing better to do in life? Jealousy! I am sorry you are going through this. The only advice I can give (having no children) is to take the high road and ignore them. They are being petty and are showing no class. Encourage your daughter to be the best she can be and you do the same by not supporting these women in their poor excuses for conversation.

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  2. Uggh - I'm not sure why people have to be so competitive about their children. I try so hard not to be that way because no one's child is perfect. Obviously Izzy is very bright, but challenges you with some behavior issues and some kids are the opposite. We all have parenting challenges, so it's hard to see why Mothers would attack a little girl.
    Chin up! Good luck on Thursday!

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  3. Thank you both, I'm just so angry!

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  4. Clearly these women could use a hobby or two. I'm sorry you have to deal with this.

    *HUGS*

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  5. Sorry you have to deal with these ridiculous people..hope this school year is better for you and Izzy!

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  6. Honestly Alison, you are being very polite.. We would probably call these divas out on the carpet and tell them to get a life. Why focus on the 5 year old.. I give you credit. Just continue to give positive reinforcement to your daughter to let her know that her hard work has paid off. Hugs to you..

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  7. ps. nominated you for a blog award :D

    http://lappy4life.blogspot.com/2010/09/blog-award.html

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  8. I am a new follower to your blog but I have a granddaughter living with me that is in first grade and I must say I am still shocked at how vicious the Mom's are.

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  9. Send me a ticket and I will do your party and you can enjoy the day! :)

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  10. Some folks have nothing more exciting in their dull and pathetic lives than to create drama by verbally slapping down a five year old.. More than anything, it's sad, pitiful and disgusting. Unfortunately, a "life" or a "hobby" won't change these pathetic creatures -especially when tearing someone smaller and more defenseless than they seems to build them up. Please ignore them, have a wonderful life, smile and be proud of your daughter - she earned her award! You're better than them - be proud of that fact AND your daughter!

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  11. I experienced a similar thing at my eldest childs primary school. The school has two classes for each year group split by age (a six month range in each class). On entering year two my son was moved into the older group although he was in age one of the younger ones in the year. This was percieved by the parents to mean that he was brighter than the others in his class (probably true...just sayin') I know this is what they thought the reason was because it was said to me a few times. Once the school year started I found that one or two of the other mums barely spoke to me for the rest of the year and some were off with me when they did speak. Also, my poor son was only invited to one birthday party by his former class mates all year and as he was new in the other class was only invited to one party from that class! I felt bad for him as he felt rejected and I felt bad for me as I'd thought some of these women were my friends!

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  12. Hi Alison, I just got banded 9/15 and am reading your blog for encouragement. Regarding the crazy moms..they exist throughout the world. I live in DC where a lot of people are older parents with only one child...this makes there expectations incredible and they also project their own ambitions on their child...its the saddest for the kids...just keep doing what you are doing...which is giving your child the love and resources to succeed. Thanks for sharing so openly...it helps a newbie like me...Alice

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